I just want to take a second to focus on relationships. Relationships is a bond you share with a person. Relationships are friends, significant others, family, acquaintances, etc. More precious relationships in your life require love and energy. It's about making time, and making it work.
No one likes the feeling of something being one-sided. You feel like you are doing all you can to nourish the relationship and the opposing end isn't appreciating or noticing your efforts. Time and Energy are the most valuable things we have as people. What we choose to spend our time and energy on is solely up to us. DONT WASTE IT ON RELATIONSHIPS THAT ARE ON-SIDED! If someone is putting you down, or not recognizing your higher good, than GOODBYE to them! You have better things to do, better people to see.
Tonight I am just reflecting on a lot of relationships in my life. Certain friends who I feel never have free time to hang out. Or those friends where you always are like "I miss you! Lets Hang out soon!"… but you never do. And it makes me sad. Everyone is always busy, including myself. Constantly moving in a world that doesn't stop. I can barely think 3 days ahead in my schedule so personally it's hard to make plans ahead of time with the certain friends I want to see.
Try to reflect this week on the relationships in your life. Are they one-sided? Which side are you on?
Just something to think about,
Holly
I would say that time and energy is where the relationship happens. But above that is the declaration that there is a relationship. This is based on mutually practiced principles. First one has to define one's principles. This will help establish a path, and boundaries. If one of your practiced principles is reciprocated time and energy and the other person does not practice that, then it follows that you would be offended. Don't be afraid to announce that you have principles once you have defined them for yourself. You will see clearly where your time and energy is appropriate to place. The world is populated by you, and everyone else who is not you....."friend" is a category with a small amount of those others. Those are the others who have defined their principles, live their principles, and you can see that you would be able to practice your principles together. Everyone else you can just smile at and wish a nice day. Liberate the others from the label you have given them, once you know their principles can't/won't/don't align with yours. Relationships can never be one-sided, by virtue of the definition of relationship. There either is one or there isn't one. You may however start to subtlely nuance the words you use to label what you call the thing. My thoughts, which I share with you with whom I have the relationship of neice and auntie.
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